Ida Falk says:
2 Mar 2012 | 11:27:57
To me it sounds as if you are justified in your anger because you have not been promoted.
the question is, why you have not been promoted. Is it because your surroundings are not aware of your competencies and then if so why? Are you good enough at promoting yourself careerwise and are you deemed a really valuable memer of the staff by your boss? Of not why is that???
The fact that you are having physical symptoms around your mouth -( the part we use to speak up with..hmmm), tells me that you are dealing with the situation in a destructive manner for yourself making yourself ill, instead of looking at what your possibilities are.
Do you prommote yourself in an assertive and clear manner? Are you full of selfconfidence - do you need your job more than your job needs you??? Are there other workplaces that would appreciate you more???
If you exude lack of selfconfidence chances are that you are juged as a person that is not as big an asset to the firm, as you would be, if you where full of selfconfidence and trust in yourself and your competencies.
You could also ask for a jobddescription to see if you are fullfilling all the requiements. If you do, ask for a meeting with you boss. During this meeting assert yourself in a confident and professionel way and make your argumentation for a promotion to go your way. If denied ask for clear reasons if you strongly disagree with your boss, look around for similar jobs and compare.
You can try and send out a couple of jobapplications, go to a couple of interviews and you can be certain, that you will feel appreciated in a whole new way, that may make you feel like you have choices. Knowing that you have choices brings with it a feeling of worth that is priceless and clearly noticable by all around you none the least your boss.Perhaps she/ he will change their opinions.
All in all the choice and responsibility is entirely yours, either you can learn to deal more constructively with you anger and with the promotion of your worth or you can continue internalizing your anger, getting stresed out which may in time turn to a stressrelated illness.
I believe I can help you get on the right track again. Feel free to contact me for a session.